To be the master of your life; You have to seek earnestly within. You must go deep into the shallow and hollow places that have been a void. The void that you have felt through life can be filled with gratitude. Accept yourself and your life circumstances, as they are. You have to be willing to dive into all the those places that have caused you pain. You have a choice to overcome all those moments in time that you had no control over. I know I didn't choose to have the childhood or the life I did. There are many circumstance that are out of our control but there are also ones that we can control. We can't change it so why sit and wallow in those times of despair? You need to explore your emotions and to know whether or not they are feelings or reality. What you know about yourself is your truth. You have to be your authentic being... When you dive into your wreckless patterns you will see that they stem from a place of imbalance within yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself; especially when you hear the words that were spoken over you by someone else of a negative connatone . When people aren't happy with themselves they will try to encompass your worth through the worth they feel about themselves. We all do the best with the tools we have but it isn't an excuse to not live authentically for your values. Love all the messed up aspects of yourself and life and that is where you can really identify with who, what and the why's of your life. When you begin to explore and purge all of the unnecessary parts of yourself that don't match up to your core; you will find balance within. Don't go looking for yourself in a world that doesn't exist within you! Create your world according to your vision... not through the magnifying glass of others. Others will magnify who they are and your life will become blurred.... Blurry vision makes it hard for us to see. Pick up your new glasses that fit your off vision and get your 20/20 back. Stop lending your glasses to others or wearing another's glasses because you will never see the landscape before your eyes... much love from my heart to yours....